How to Make Love Like a Porn Star: A Cautionary Tale

ISBN: 0060539100
ISBN 13: 9780060539108
By: Jenna Jameson

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In the underbelly of Las Vegas, a cesspool of warring biker gangs and seedy strip clubs, gawky, brace-faced Jenna Massoli was transformed into the bombshell Jenna Jameson. Today, Jenna is the biggest star in the history of adult movies, consistently ranked as one of the most beautiful women alive. But behind the glamour and the meteoric rise to fame was a path paved with tragedy and heartbreak. As a teenager—drawn into a dark and chaotic world where rape, abuse, and murder were commonplace—Jenna began her rapid downward spiral of addiction and degradation . . . while at the same time becoming the porn world's biggest crossover success story.Her intimate memoir, How to Make Love Like a Porn Star, is a shocking sexual history, an insider's guide to the secret workings of the billion-dollar adult film industry, and a gripping thriller that probes deeply into Jenna's dark past. Mix in hilarious anecdotes, adrenaline-pumping triumphs, and photos from Jenna's private collection, and you have a tell-all autobiography unlike any other.

Reader's Thoughts

Imogen

Here is one weird thing about this book: It's about six hundred pages long, but about a third of that is pictures. Here's another thing about this book: during intense passages about things like rape, there will be pictures of porny-ass ol' Jenna with a gallon of lipstick on showing up her butt, or something. Which could totally work in two ways: either as total, 'you are reading this for the porniness' exploitive cash-in, or in a meta, 'here is the reality, looks how different it is from the way it's portrayed' kind of commentary way. But instead I honestly couldn't figure out which it was supposed to be, and ultimately, I kinda feel like it was just to make Jenna's autobiography an Event Tome instead of, y'know, a porn star memoir. Which works- it is huge and cinderblocky. Another weird thing is how ghost-written it feels. Alex said that Jenna Jameson is hella smart and articulate and all the things we say when we mean 'the assumption that comes with her background is that she's stupid, but the reality is that she's not,' and I totally believe her. But that doesn't always translate to writing, right? I know absolute conversational intelligent geniuses whose e-mails and letters are strings of cliches and stiff phrases. So I've got nothing against Neil Strauss as her, uh, co-author. It's just weird how, like, the prose slightly has character and slightly doesn't. Not to resort to one of the hackneyedest metaphors about writing in the world, but it's like potato soup where the only spice is a little bit of salt. I wish that her voice had come through more, because the sentences themselves read like they could have been written by literally anybody in the world, if they were co-writing a book with a professional paragraph-churner.Pretentious. I guess the only other weird thing I want to mention is how, like, if you take out the specifics- the fame, the porn, that kinda stuff- her life is just pretty much everybody else's life. Like, a few fucked up relationships, a little overboard on the substances, the amount of money she has is none and then a lot and then not much and then ultimately enough. Which I'm sure, also, is the point- it's just weird to get to the end of six hundred pages and read that somebody in their, what, late twenties? Is at the same point emotionally that I am in my late twenties. What am I supposed to do with that, if I already knew that sex workers were real people with real lives? I just felt like I didn't take much away from it. Um, so whatever. It was fine. It's probably not worth thirty bucks though. Is it in paperback? I'd wait for the paperback, if it's not.

Callie Rose Tyler

This book contains adult material....duhThis book is enjoyable but it really depends on what you are hoping to get out of it.Going into this I knew absolutely nothing about Jenna Jameson and quite frankly, I don't know if I would have been able to pick her out of a line-up. (This has now changed since this book has approximately 3,000 billion pictures of Jenna in various stages of undress.)No, I'm not a fan, the reason I picked this up was because I had recently watched the Lovelace bio-pic starring Amanda Seyfried and I really loved it. Before that I watched The Notorious Bettie Page and was enthralled so I thought this book would be right up my alley, and at first it was.I would say that the first half of this book was very interesting as it chronicled her childhood and life as a teen-aged stripper. However, once she becomes established in the adult film industry everything begins to feel very repetitive....I dated this loser and cheated on him with this person and was drunk and did drugs and slept around....again and again. There are a few interesting anecdotes and celebrity cameos: Bruce Willis is an arrogant perv, Tommy Lee is needy and clingy, Marilyn Manson is actually pretty weird, and Howard Stern is nice, well sort of. It had it's moments but overall once you pass the 300 page mark everything kind of runs together and you are so desensitized that nothing is really shocking anymore. As I said before there are a ton of pictures but very few have captions and none of them are chronological. It would have been nice if the pictures related to what was happening in the book at that time. For example, how about not having a topless photo sandwiched between diary entries from when you were 10 years old. Not only are the pictures shown with no years or dates attached but she rarely references dates or years in her writing which can make it very difficult to follow.However, if I take a step back I think that the real reason I only 'liked' this over 'really liked' is due to my expectations. Both Lovelace and Betty Page went through some terrible, terrible things but when it came down to it they were just innocent girls that got caught up in a corrupt industry. Both of these ladies turned away from the 'p' word and made good. Jenna's story does not take this direction. This poor girl experienced terrible abuse and was raped several times throughout her life but doesn't ever seek justice or make a stand against rape. In fact there are a few times when she is raped and then makes the monster her boyfriend. All these years later and I don't see a ton of reflection. It's more like oh well, boys will be boys, it all worked out in the end. WTF?! At one point Jenna insists that she still would have joined the adult movie biz even if she hadn't been abused and I find it hard to believe since she herself says at the end that if so and so hadn't raped me I would have never met this person or made this career jump. She actually comes across as accepting of rape and treats it like it isn't as big of a deal as it actually is and that really bothered me. She constantly let's men take advantage of her, in fact a man calls her a whore threatens to kill her dog and she marries him, and that's supposed to be a happy ending?I guess I was looking for a tale of redemption or empowerment and that's my problem since this book is not obligated to be inspiring. Overall, her story was interesting but not reflective or thoughtful. I felt like most of the pictures and some of the writing was just fan service. The book is long but she does try to break it up by including diary entries, comic panels, lists, interviews, and pictures...lots and lots of pictures. The first 300 pages are really entertaining and the rest of the book is just a slow decline. Do not read if you are looking for an inspiring story featuring a strong woman.

Janice

I bought this book on a whim many years ago and just never got around to reading it. At the time I was very interested in women's empowerment and sexuality, and since Jenna Jameson did have some crossover success, and was one of the biggest money makers in the porn industry I was interested in reading a little more about how she achieved that success. Honestly, I think she gives herself a lot more credit than she deserves.... she also repeatedly calls herself a "good girl" when describing her childhood, but then goes on to describe early use of alcohol, drugs, assault, and vandalism. I'm pretty sure her definition and my definition of being a "good girl" are two different things. After reading this book - it's not surprising that she made many of the choices she did. Her father, a criminal, at one point a cop, and a drug addict. She and her brother were both heavily addicted to meth, and she had absolutely no positive female influence in her life. She apparently was also raped three times before she turned 20. I don't doubt any of her childhood trauma, however, I'm not sure I believe half of what she writes about - I almost feel bad that I can't take a lot of it seriously, or find it believable in any way. I'd be fascinated to find out what a mental health professional thinks. Also, it's pretty amazing that she never served any jail time, or was never arrested for half of the situations she describes. I don't think I can recommend reading it. It only cost me $1 after all, and maybe 48 hours of my time. It made me feel bad for her more than anything, which is really not what I wanted it to be. *UPDATE*So I looked up Jenna on Wikipedia after finishing this review. She's been arrested twice for alcohol and drugs since then, and has now been divorced three times (although she did finally have twins a few years ago). Sad.

Mindy

I got some sideways looks reading it in waiting rooms and my mom wanted to know why I wasn't reading "something else", and I'm sure there's a large segment of the world that would not enjoy reading this and would find it vulgar and think it shows what society is coming to... and I'm not even saying they're wrong. I don't feel like it was a waste of my time to read it though. It's more interesting and serious than you would think judging by the cover. I'm surprised at some of the serious issues she survived (rape, drug addiction, her friend's murder, unhealthy relationships) and even though the book is really long and I got bored in the middle, I wanted to keep reading to finally get to read that her life got better (which it did). I ultimately liked the styling of the book the most- which you can get a feel of with the cover. I liked that there were pictures throughout the book from all different stages and events in her life and (presumably) photocopies of her journal from middle and high school. It had nice chapter dividers and everything was visually appealing. The writing was good too. It was an easy read, but not because it was lower-level reading. I don't know how much were her words or Neil Strauss', but the stories were interestingly told and no matter who worded it, you can tell Jenna has put serious thought into her life and reflecting and making wise comments about what she's learned. Her journal entries as a young adult confirmed her intelligence and introspective qualities too. And even if you don't want to have things in common with a porn star, she has gone through many of the same basic relationship issues anyone else has on some level. I did get bored in the middle where there is a section that alternates between play-styled dialogue on the page and some of her journal entries from when she was younger. The stories weren't bad, I just preferred the typical narration to the way she had it on the page when her and her brother Tony and her dad were talking about memories. Oh, and she does get RATHER graphic describing some of her real-life sexcapades...

Rachel

So even though the book is long, most of the pages are pictures of Jenna Jameson. As a straight, married female, that got old. I picked up the book because I was genuinely curious what possessed Jenna to go into the porn industry. Shocker: It's because she was damaged growing up and struggled with herself. Okay, so obviously it's more complicated than that. Jenna goes into fairly graphic detail about her stripper years and relationships. Sadly, it's all very predictable. I think her story is compelling as a cautionary tale, but you know where it's going as you read it so it doesn't really pull you in. The test of a great memoir (for me) is that "rock bottom" moment that leads to redemption and healing. Yes, I suppose this book does have a rock bottom moment, but there isn't much redemption and healing. Yeah, she's not a raging drug addict anymore, but is she really redeemed? It's not like there's a life lesson beyond, "hey girl, maybe you should consider not being a sex object."You'd think the memoir of one of the most well known porn stars would be really captivating. Except for a few gruesome details, this story isn't much different from exactly what you expected.

Jessie Pearl

Dont let the 600 page length of this book fool you, a lot of it is pictures, photocopy journal entries, and fluent but childish writing style. Still, story wise this is indeed interesting as hell in my opinion, but I'm in to this kind of thing. If you care not for stripper/porn star stories you should obviously not read this, but that's what's right up my alley so I take it for what it is. It was suggested to me that everything she says in this book is a lie but I have no idea, I take it at face value because that's what is presented. There are parts that are sad, and parts that are hilarious. But this is not in fact a guide on making love like a porn star, though she does give blow job instructions in one chapter.

Jenn

From the moment I heard about this book, I was interested. What could possess someone to become a porn star? What are the motivations? Of course this was only one woman's story, but my thoughts on porn stars didn't change much.Jenna Jameson has lived a pretty disturbed and hard life, that's for sure. I think she's a really strong woman for coming out and saying some of the things that happened to her.Regardless of my personal feelings regarding the subject matter, it was interesting to see how she became who she is today. I wasn't very interested in reading about her doing drugs (almost every other page) or about another abusive (both mentally and/or physically) relationship she was involved in, but for the most part, the book kept me wanting more. The novel is separated into "books", which was fine, but I didn't really see the point. There was a whole 'book' of a conversation between her, her brother, her father, and her sister-in-law that I really couldn't wait to get through. That, and that half the autobiography is filled with pictures of her were the two main problems I had. I'd barely read 50 pages before I was almost halfway through the book.The last couple of chapters were filled with lovey talk about her new guy Jay, who she ends up marrying and plans on having children with. I know this was written four years ago so this isn't her fault, but I think I heard recently that she's now with and pregnant by some other fella. Just bugged me a little, but that can't be helped.Overall though, an interesting read.

Kristin

***WARNING...SOME MAY FIND THIS REVIEW OFFENSIVE*** Jenna Jameson attempts to write. Where do I begin? First of all, there is a difference between an interesting story and a well-executed story. When both elements are there, you have a great story. Her life story is definitely not boring, but her life in story-form is delivered very poorly, not to mention it's about 300 pages too long. I must add that I knew, kind of, what I was getting into: I knew she didn't have a writing background (or an education for that matter); that she had to lean on co-writer Neil Strauss more than your average autobiographer; that my expectations shouldn't demand the same from her as say, my expectations from a Hemingway or Fitzgerald story. I don't mean to imply that she is dumb. On the contrary, she appears to be very intelligent, ambitious, and innovative. It is that mix of elements that makes her story so interesting, especially given her grassroots attempt at success in the male-dominated sex industry. This gal is not stupid. But she is not good with a pen. One oddity that left me baffled was her choice of words. Even though profanity runs rampant and explicit sexual prose drapes nearly every page (and it makes sense in this kind of story), she makes frequent use of the words "pee-pee" and "ding-dong" for, you know...and "friggin." (Come on Jenna, you're a porn star...act like it...it's PUSSY!) Another annoying aspect of this book was it's all-in-one deal. This book contains Jenna comics, cartoons, interviews, diary entries (and not of the same caliber as Virginia Woolf...more like, "Dear Diary, I kissed a boy today, and then he touched my pee-pee."), Jenna's ten commandments, and pictures galore! I do understand, however, why this book would be heavier in pictures, but all of these superfluous additions account for approximately 1/3 of the book, hence it could have been much shorter. One strength Jenna possesses is candidness. At times, however, I felt like she was summoning the spirit of Judy Blume. Consider this entry: "My first period brought with it a whole new set of problems. One was that I still had my hymen. It was a thin, flat layer of flesh completely blocking my opening, making it impossible to use tampons." Bless her heart. This is but one of many tragedies Jenna faced and conquered, and no detail is left to the imagination. So far I have been really harsh, but there were some good things about the book. For one, she's funny. I found myself laughing at multiple points throughout the story. Her sense of humor is a great balance to the lurid subject matter ("All I did was contribute to Kleenex sales"). She also doesn't hold back. In a story such as this, that's crucial. She also throws in some "how-tos" for the blossoming wannabe porn star. So...if you're easily offended by profanity or explicit sexual content, this book is not for you. It's also not the kind of book to read on the morning commute, as explicit pictures abound throughout. But if you can accept her story for what it is, then this is an interesting, if not enjoyable read. It's not everyday we get to read the life story of a famous porn star. Strangely, it makes for an interesting book club choice (depending on the degree of open-mindedness of its members). Consider yourself warned!

Chris DePoy

This is not an instructional book. This is a coming of age story about a young outcast who grew up to be one the most famous models in entertainment. I have read other books that Rolling Stone’s Neil Strauss had help write and publish such as Motley Crue’s The Dirt, Marilyn Manson’s Long Hard Road Out of Hell, and Dave Navarro’s Don’t Try this at Home. However, I will say this one was very intelligently crafted, and Jameson’s journal entries show it was her hand that had crafted most of this story. Also, although many people may scoff at this, but unlike Neil Strauss’s other books, this book actually didn’t objectify women. This book starts off as a story about a teen girl who wanted to be a pretty thing exploited by her man to becoming a story about a woman who took control of her own destiny. Although sometimes these choices were self-destructive, it was her self-management and self-promotion that gave her the wealth, company ownership, and celebrity status. This isn’t a literary achievement but I suggest not passing her story up.

Lauren

I think this is a story of survival. (Why do people always look at me funny when I admit to having read this?) Being the queen of her business that she is, I read it wanting to know what made her tick. "Sex" is the popular answer to that. But that's really not the truth. She admits to loving sex, but she dispels the myth that porn stars are sex addicts who want to get paid for their source of pleasure. She's very honest about admitting how bad the sex industry can be. The fact that she survived brutal rape (more than once), addiction, and bad abusive boyfriend after bad abusive boyfriend, says that she's tough. She's also a very smart business lady. She deserves all that she has, if it's what makes her happy. When in doubt, if you were to ask yourself, "what would Jenna do?" it would be as valid as asking "what would Jesus do?" or "what would Janis do?" Jenna would say to move on and make the best of the situation. She knew how to separate emotion and work. In the end, she's just another girl who had a string of bad boyfriends and wanted to be successful at her job. Really, it's a just another story of a gal trying to make it on her own. This isn't a story about sex or about porn. It's a story of survival. I didn't give it any more than three stars only because she didn't write it all by herself.

Barbara Skuplik

I think that like most other readers of this book, I was looking for and expecting a fun, light read,and a personal take on the porn industry from the inside--some juicy details and "secret behind the scene" recollections. There seems to be such a fascination with this industry, with many people wondering "how could they do that", while curiosity gets the best of us. What I got was a much more raw, honest, and personal story of what many consider to be the "Queen of Mainstream Pornography". This book is much more about Jenna Jameson, her life growing up, and the effects it had on her, than the "behind the scenes" commentary I was expecting. It seemed to be an attempt to figure out who she is and make sense of her past and current life. Of course, she is no longer married to Jay (as the book ends off), and depending on which sources you believe, she is either separated from Tito Ortiz, or happily in bliss. Her craving for motherhood is made clear throughout the book with her early first sexual experiences and yearning to have a true "parent" figure in her life. She takes you through her drug addictions, some photo shoots, the making of her movies, many of her sexual trysts--straight or otherwise, her career, her family drama, and her past. The book is rather long; filled with glossy photos and many black and white pictures from her childhood to present day. I would like to see her write a followup to she where she is in her 'head space' now. Her constant searching for approval, belonging, acceptance, and love is clear throughout, and manifests itself in many different ways (sex, drugs, attention seeking behavior, codependent relationships). I hope she has been able to find a bit of closure now that she has a family and has settled down and found some peace. This was definitely a fun book to read--very easy to read and surprisingly a fast read as well. The pictures are explicit (as a warning to those who are not comfortable with overt nudity but definitely add to the book. The book is punctuated by several diary entrees throughout her life, which if real, is a neat way to see the chronic issues and insecurities that have plagued her from childhood and sadly followed her to adulthood. This book is not for everyone, but it is definitely interesting!

Eva Leger

I didn't really know what to expect with this but I'd heard some good things about it and wanted to try it. I'm not a huge Jenna fan but I do like the woman and find her very attractive and interesting. This reads like a memoir which is what I was hoping for so I'm happy. I was wondering at first how she had so much to write about because it's not a thin book by any means, almost 600 pages with some pictures included. She did it though, she kept me wanting to know more the entire time. She told about her childhood, her family and friends, her career, everything with enough detail for it to be interesting and not so much that it gets boring. I just found out that this isn't her only book and I do plan on looking at what else she has written.

Amber Kevill

right now im a few chapters in. i am hooked! so nobody aspires to be a stripper or in porn but i think the book really shows 'its not what you do but how you do it' she is such a smart women and lessons can be learnt from her. im surprised how hooked in i am and surprised that she can appeal so well to wemen after being in an industry where she must appeal to men. i agree with other reviews that say its weird that she says about being raped then has pics in that chapter of her from stripping. i have already downloaded her other books to read after. it really is an easy read, and made up from alot of pictures so dont let the length put you off(i also wish the pictures were more in order or had better descriptions as there were pictures from porn movie covers when she is still just stripping and pics of family when thats not the chapter topic). the 3rd part of the book is annoying in that its written as just an interview transcript with diary parts put in

Steph

Oh, Jenna, I was rooting for you to step up to the plate and show the world that you are a strong and independent force to be reckoned with. Perhaps prove to be a brilliant businesswoman who made her way in the world and overturned misogyny and maltreatment in the given field. This was almost unreadable blather. Stick to fucking.

Angeline Peterson

I didn't have high expectations for this book, considering it was written by a porn star with little education. But I came out realizing that Jenna Jameson has a firm grasp of who she is, where she's been, and how to market herself better than any porn star on the planet. She's witty and introspective; making the traumatic times in her life seem like a mere stepping stone. She's been through so much: the death of her mother, drug addiction, the porn industry, yet she managed to come out of the other side a successful woman who didn't let pain get the best of her. I loved this book! And the pictures throughout aren't bad either!

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