Los 5 Lenguajes Del Amor De Los Ninos / The Five Languages Of Love For Children

ISBN: 0789905086
ISBN 13: 9780789905086
By: Gary Chapman

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Reader's Thoughts

Janice Bear

The actual chapters describing the love languages were helpful, but after that the book lost me. There were a lot of little things I disagreed with; enough to make me question the validity of the stuff I initially liked. Rewarding kids with food? No thanks. Cutting short discipline because a child shows contrition for breaking a rule? Well, maybe sometimes, but I think kids should have to make up for some indiscretions (e.g. if you broke someone else's toy a portion of your allowance must be used to replace it).It is important to explore parenting theories that differ from your own, but many of these just did not add up for me. I'll keep the book around as a reference and maybe try re-reading it at another time. In all, The authors took 200 pages to give me about 100 pages worth of information.

Joshua Park

With any book that's designed to help parents be better parents for their kids, it's easy to fall into the trap of defining the success of the book by whether its advice was successful in the reader's family. The fact that every child is different is actually the highlight of this book. This helps people understand why two kids might react completely differently to the same gifts, the same activities, and the same punishments. It has to do with how the people involved show and express love.Most of the explanations from this "5 Love Languages" book were more instructive to me than the examples from Gary Chapman's main book in this vein, The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate.One problem: I expected this book to help with my toddler. In the book, Chapman and Campbell say that if the child is under the age of 5 that I should just not try to figure out the love language. They also say that parents should not discipline or punish the child with methods related to the child's love language. (E.g., a child in dire need of Quality Time could be emotionally damaged by punishing them with isolation.) This presents a problem: I am not to discipline in my child's love language, but I can't know what my child's language is until he's older? Should I simply hope that my discipline tactics are not in the same language as my son's understanding of love?Sadly, the authors do not offer a solution to this. It seems that the book is geared primarily toward school-aged children. Still, the advice seems good and I'd hate to fault the book with a lower rating simply because of the book's scope. I wish the publisher had clarified the appropriate age range of the book in its list description.

Janese

An excellent book for anyone who is married, engaged, or has children. What is your love language, and do you speak the same love language as your spouse? Or are you doing acts of love and he/she acts as if they don't care or appriciate them, then maybe you are not speaking their primary love language.

midnightfaerie

The five love languages has had much acclaim for the use in parenting children as well in the aiding of marriages. I found the book slightly interesting, mildly helpful, and downright obvious in spots. While understanding the different love languages a person can have: Acts of Service, Words of Affirmation, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch, can move you worlds closer to getting along with someone, it doesn't necessarily always bridge the gap of personality comprehension. For children, I believe the language that each child responds to, is constantly changing and almost always not one of these languages but a combination of them. This makes it difficult to know and administer to. While making relationships better is never an easy undertaking, once you understand a love language, you would think it might simplify things. This isn't always so, either. Just because my husband knows my love language is Acts of Service, doesn't necessarily mean he's any more willing to do the dishes or clean up after himself. Now there's a book I can get behind, getting you husband and children to clean up after themselves. I'm not saying this book has no merit. By far it has some great ideas and ways of getting to the heart of relating to your children, and it can't possibly hurt or hinder your relationship with your children. Especially for those that have never considered that there are other ways to show your love for your children than what you're used to, it can give great insight into alternative methods for doing so. For someone like me, who is constantly analyzing my relationships with my family and how to make them better, it isn't altogether a new topic. At the very least, it's a good solid foundation of principles for those looking to gain a deeper connection with their children. ClassicsDefined.com

Stephanie Burkhart

The Five Love Languages for Children is a book that will help parents better understand what motivates their kids and how to keep them happy.There are five topics which everyone understands: physical touch, words of affirmation, giving gifts, acts of service, and quality time. Chapman and Campbell talk a little about each language and how they make us feel.Chapman and Campbell have a writing style that is easy to read and engages the reader with it's conversational style. They use several scenarios and examples to highlight the positive effects of speaking one's language.The authors take great pains to explain their terminology. There is also a chapter on discipline and how it affects children.Chapman and Campbell also take a chapter by chapter look at the defined topics, which I found inspiring to me as a parent. They also look at the challenges a parent might face including divorce and other hardships.The authors address the need for a parent to speak the other parent's love languages as well. There is a quiz you can use at the end of the book to help you identify your child's love language.The book is an excellent tool in helping parents raise their children and understanding their motivations. The book talked to me, not above me, and it allowed me to explore my own feelings as a parent. I highly recommend this book.

Kelly

The Five Love Languages has so much good information in it, but I didn't feel that the Five Love Languages OF CHILDREN added very much to that. It might have been more useful had my children been older. I was interested in what it had to say about discipline, but obviously disciplining a teenager is different than disciplining a preschooler and the discipline information in the book seemed to be for someone a little more rational than a three year old. I don't think I'm going to be able to hold onto that information for the next ten years. I'm generally leery of any parenting book that throws around the phrases like "will cause lasting and irreversible damage," referring to the child as a result of something a parent does or does not do. It was especially strange in this book because it was never talking about anything blatantly harmful. No parent is perfect and there are quite a few functioning adults in the world, so I don't know how much there really is that can't be undone. Just love your kids, people.If you were only going to read one of these Love Languages books, I would go for the basic one over the child-specific one.

Sueij

The authors expound on their theory that there are five different ways that people express and experience love: physical touch, words of affirmation, quality time, gifts and acts of service. By the time kids are five or so, they say, the kids have started to have a preference (before then children just need love in all the languages all the time). Knowing your child's love language can help you to be sure that they know that you love them, which leads to all kinds of good things they'd like to tell you more about. For example, if a parent expresses love by acts of service, but the child experiences love through physical touch, then they may feel unloved even while the parent bends over backward for them. Similarly, if they experience love through words of affirmation, but a parent disciplines by yelling, the child may not get the message "You made a bad choice" but may instead hear "I don't love you."The book is mildly, though overtly, Christian. Non-Christians will probably roll their eyes occasionally, though I still think that the basic message of the five love languages and how to discover and use them will ring true and be useful.I think this is actually one of the more useful parenting books I've read, and recommend it quite highly.

Lori

I did find this book helpful in some ways, and frustrating in others. While it was beneficial to learn the different ways a child feels loved and the authors did offer some approaches to behavioral issues that have already been beneficial, I just don't think that knowing a child's love language and "filling their love tank" will solve ALL of a child's behavioral problems as the book suggests. I felt the authors put too much responsibility on the parent for a child's behavior. While I definitely feel as a parent I do have a lot of power and influence on my child, ultimately how he/she acts is not entirely up to me or within my control and the child makes the final decision as to how he/she behaves. It was helpful to add this info to my parenting arsenal, I just don't think life is as tidy as the book suggests.

Molly

I appreciate the aims of this book. My biggest worry as a parent--or rather, ONE of my many biggest--is that my daughter will not feel sufficiently loved/appreciated/proud of/etc. Love was a complicated and fraught thing in my home growing up, which has led me to be overly-concerned and ready to consume the books offered at the library in hopes of not missing out.This is another one of those books that could have been covered in a nice article rather than a lengthy book and the elaborations seemed to treat the reader as if no interpretation abilities were present. I think this will help most in conflict, which is perhaps the best place it can be used--a reminder of what my kids might need more of at a particular time and how I might offer it to her. She needs to feel loved and unconditionally and on all levels. The implications of knowing a person's love language could be deep manipulation, which is a bit unfortunate. Fortunately, I think my partnership would never resort to that, which I hope will carry over to my daughter and any future littles. I appreciate the pointing out of how one must have a solid partnership and other good adult relationships in order to model and pass on good feelings and behavior. And I think it's important to process anger and upset situations wisely. But I find the pigeonholing a bit silly.

Tiffany

My oldest child is much like me, but my second felt so different! But for the first time I'm understanding him, and this book may be the difference between a close relationship with him during these formative years, and a distant one.This is the best parenting book I've read. In a nutshell: everyone shows love and desires love in return, but we do it in different ways. Those "ways" are called languages, and are condensed into five types. Receiving love in YOUR language fills your love tank. Kids whose love tanks are full learn better, are disciplined more easily, and manage anger more appropriately. A great analogy for the whole thing: Someone can be screaming as loud as possible in Chinese, but if you don't speak Chinese, you're not going to understand them.

Mary-ann

This outstanding book addresses how each child expresses and receives love through one of five main "languages" - quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, or physical touch. Although children need to be spoken to in each of these love languages, there's one love language that meets their deepest emotional needs and should be used often with them. Once we figure out what our children's primary love language is, we will be able to better understand their personal communication methods. Even though children need to feel love through all five of the love languages, their primary love "tank" must be filled in order for the other languages to be effective.They also offer excellent suggestions with disciplinary methods that won't affect your child's perceptions of the way they feel loved by their parents.Bottom line - Even if you've read tons of parenting books, you will truly learn something new from this one - something to increase your relationship with your child.

Jenny

Our children know that we love them, right? We hope so, but not everyone perceives and receives and shows love in the same manner. This book details 5 ways we perceive love: physical touch, words of affirmation, gifts, quality time, and acts of service. Each of us has a predominant love language by which we most feel loved. Learn how to speak your child's (or spouse's) primary language, and experience a transformation in your relationship with that person. After detailing each love language in relation to children, the authors present a final chapter for couples. After all, if you are not in tune with your partner's primary love language, how can you be in tune and model healthy relationships for your child?I really enjoyed this book, and it helped to clarify many things for me and my family, including reflections upon how I was shown love as a child and how that has stayed with me today. How do I know you love me? Gifts, kind words, and touch are great, but quality time and acts of service are my primary love languages. Spend time with me, or do a chore for me, and then I will know that you really care. A short and insightful read, well worth investing some time, reflection, and conversation with your partner. This is a parenting "must read."

Huda

I liked some of the reviews on this book so I couldn't stand reading its introduction as soon as I got itWell, I finished it Noufa, 2day, as we decided this early morning(;There are two other books; the first one is about the five languages in general and the other is concerned more about the teenagers' but I really believe the one I'm reading is the most important of all. Recommended to all the parents, teachers and those who deal with kids.Ps.ThanQ D.B.D (:

Rachael

I think this book is fascinating! I've noticed that my children, my spouse and I all have a love language that relates to them. The love language is your preferred way of giving & receiving love. What I loved most about this book is the knowledge that when you discipline a child in their love language it cuts really deep. For example, my daughter is a words of affirmation child, and when I correct her actions, she shuts down (even when I do it in the nicest way 'we can't touch that sweetie') My son is a physical touch child, and if I punish him by not letting him sit on my lap, it really hurts his feelings. But if I correct him with words, he doesn't care. It talks a lot about how parents can do everything they want to show their children love, but if they are not showing the child love in the way they prefer it, the child may feel unloved, even to the most attentive parent

Ashley

I think Chapman is onto something real w/ his love language theory. Both of his books I have read have rung very true for me. I was surprised by one of the languages my son seems to relate to, but as I read his description of it, it really seemed to fit.Having said that, I was often frustrated while reading the second half. Maybe I just want things to be easy and for someone to tell me, "This is exactly how to be a good parent." I felt that he'd give some vague suggestion that I wouldn't fully understand, then leave it at that. Many times I wished for further clarification or examples. I also disagree with some points he feels strongly about. That is ok, though. Turns out, not all parents have to be the same.I'm glad I read the book. I hope that I can relate to my kids a bit better now.

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