Los Cinco Lenguajes de La Disculpa = Five Languages of Apology

ISBN: 141431289X
ISBN 13: 9781414312897
By: Gary Chapman Jennifer Thomas

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Asi como tu tienes un lenguaje del amor distinto al de otras personas, tambien escuchas y expresas las palabras y gestos de disculpa en tu propio lenguaje. Gary Chapman, exitoso autor ampliamente reconocido por el "New York Times, " junto con la consejera Jennifer Thomas nos traen este exhaustivo estudio sobre la forma en que expresamos nuestras disculpas, demostrando que no solo se trata de una cuestion de la voluntad, sino tambien de la manera en la cual expresamos nuestras disculpas. Ayudandonos a identificar los lenguajes de la disculpa, este libro facilita el camino hacia la creacion de relaciones interpersonables saludables y duraderas. Los autores nos proporcionan tecnicas adecuadas para dar y recibir disculpas en forma efectiva. CARACTERISTICAS: Incluye un formulario para su evaluacion personal segun los Cinco Lenguajes de la Disculpa. Investigaciones y ejemplos de la vida real presentan conceptos de facil entendimiento. Presentacion de casos practicos y demostracion de como reparar relaciones entre parejas, matrimonios, novios, familiares, amigos, socios y companeros de trabajo. Just as you have a different love language, you also hear and express the words and gestures of apology in a different language. "New York Times" best-selling author Gary Chapman has teamed with counselor Jennifer Thomas on this groundbreaking study of the way we apologize, discovering that it's not just a matter of will--it's a matter of how. By helping people identify the languages of apology, this book clears the way toward healing and sustaining vital relationships. The authors detail proven techniques for giving and receiving effective apologies. FEATURES: Apology assessment profile helps readers identify apology languages. Eye-opening research and real-life examples make concepts easy to understand and follow. Proven, practical steps for repairing relationships involving spouses, dating, family and the workplace.

Reader's Thoughts

Ashley Thompson

I've read The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate and The Five Love Languages for Singles and appreciate knowing the love languages and knowing what mine are, what my spouse's are, and those of family and close friends. My husband and I were discussing the love languages again the other day and went to Chapman's website, where we noticed a quiz for "apology languages". So we both took it and then I read this book. Knowing how we are when we apologize or the type of apology we expect from each other makes so much more sense, and also knowing how we are with others or in business situations. For me, making restitution and genuinely repenting indicate a sincere, meaningful apology, but for my husband, expressing regret and accepting responsibility are enough. Asking forgiveness is the fifth language.I highly recommend taking this quiz to find out your apology language (http://www.5lovelanguages.com/profile...) and then reading the book if you want more information about it. The book was repetitive at times and all of the marriage case studies got old, especially as individual marriages vary and don't apply to everyone. Of course, Chapman included love language information for those who aren't familiar with it, although for me that was also repetitive as I've read the other books. The chapters in the back have some wisdom regarding forgiving/apologizing when you don't want to, how to apologize in a business situation, how to apologize to your in-laws and other family members, and how to apologize to yourself, among others. Each of the apology language chapters has example apology statements at the end, as well. Also good to teach your kids how to apologize in all ways and be aware of how others best receive apologies. All in all, I'd recommend if only to understand apology languages, but I'd advise skimming for the relevant/helpful parts.


As with the other book of Gary Chapman's that I read, this has some sound practical advice; but it's somewhat tainted by the fact that he's forever pushing his religion in a ways that seems somewhat exclusive and elitist. Why he writes in a way that seems to potentially alienate all but his own particular faith, when the ideas are sound of themselves bemuses me and steals somewhat from the message of the book; but it was a useful read and I agree that if all people (of all faiths or not) were taught the lessons within it from a young age, the world would be a more pleasant place.

Pat W. Kirk

Have you ever had a disagreement with spouse, friend, or coworker and the apology given didn’t mend your hurt feelings? Or maybe you tried to apologize only to have your apology rejected. Possibly your apology didn’t match the style of the receiver. Gary Chapman and Jennifer Thomas discuss the various apology styles in The Five Languages of Apology. ... Christians Read: Books Review

Mandy Hoffman

I really enjoyed the first chapter of this book and agree with the authors that there are various languages of apology. I have noticed in my own marriage that at times my husband and I struggle with communicating our apology to one another. But within the next few chapters I soon disagreed with the author about the issue of when to forgive. I believe that we need to be cultivating a heart of forgiveness and taking our hurt to God so that when someone does apologies we are ready to extend our forgiveness to them. The more I read, I was struck with the fact that the root of the problem is pride. We stuggle to give some one an apology because of our own pride! If you have time to read this book I would suggest you instead read some good books about pride. If you begin to work on the pride in your life - we all have it! - I tink the languages of apology will come from the overflow of humbleness that you begin to cultivate.I recommend 2 books:Humility True GreatnessI Really Want to Change... So, Help Me God

Linda Macdonald

I enjoyed this book because it explores the many dimensions of apologies and what aspects might be important to emphasize with different individuals. If more of us would adequately and sincerely apologize and in more meaningful ways, I am convinced more people would experience healing and reconciliation in their relationships.

Sybelle van Erven

Well, I did not actually finish this one. I thought it became a little too repetitive. As helpfula s Gary Chapman's books are, this one didn't do it for me. Yes, it was interesting to hear that even in apology people have different languages, so I will trey to remember that when apologizing. But beyond those ideas, I just think it became kind of a repeating of similar ideas, either from his other books or from previous chapters. I don't think you need to read much more than the first few chapters and you'll get it.

Frans Karlsson

Another great book by Chapman about how there is a difference of how we apologize and receive apologies. He did a good way of linking this together with his other teaching and with lot of practical examples made many good points. Recommended for any relationships.


Like The Five Love Languages, this book is INVALUABLE!!! Wouldn't you like to know how someone likes to hear, "I'm sorry!" Again, this book has saved many misunderstandings!!! A MUST READ for anyone that wants to minimize conflict and maximize relationships!!!


This is a great book. We use it at OASIS and have found it to be very helpful to people. It is a great because it looks at what constitutes an apology and what does not. It is a book which is helpful at a personal level and in organizations where healing is needed.


I'll admit this book was a little repetitive, but the premise and the examples of how people found peace by letting go of their own feelings were inspiring! I thought this book illustrated the divine principle of forgiveness beautifully. I want to go back and reread the chapter on, "Teaching children how to apologize". Interesting points there.

Maria M. Elmvang

Unfortunately not nearly as good as "The Five Love Languages". I do think the authors have a point, that there are different languages of apology, but I found it a lot harder to relate to the differences between the languages, and I still have absolutely no clue what my primary language of apology is!It's not a book I'd want to read in one sitting - although that's what I did with TFLL - because as it's a book about apology you're automatically made to think of times when you owed others an apology, or they owed you one. Made for rather depressing reading at times.Gary and Jennifer do have some good points at times though, and while I still have no idea what neither my own nor my husband's language of apology is, I now know to rephrase my apology using several different ones. Besides, I do know one or two that it's definitely NOT, so that always helps.

Rebekka Steg

I'm sure we're all aware, that it is important to give a genuine apology, when we make mistakes and hurt someone - whether it is on purpose or not. But sometimes, even though we are sincerely sorry, the person we've hurt, might not think our apology is sincere, because we are not apologizing in a language they can understand.As with love languages, we tend to apologize (or show love) in our own primary language, which is not necessarily the primary language of the person we have hurt. The authors recommend that in case you don't know the person's language of apology, play it safe, and use all five.


There were a lot of interesting and practical ideas in this book. I think the concepts discussed could be very helpful to most people. What I found to be most helpful is understanding what I need in an apology to be ready to move on and forgive someone.One thing I disliked was the unending "selling" of the book. There were tons of arguments throughout the book about the validity of this paradigm. I had already been convinced enough to read it, and I guess I felt like that all the promotion belonged in the introduction/on the back cover.


I've only skimmed this book to find my and my husband's apology language and already notice a difference in understanding this key difference between the two of us. He has to hear "I was wrong", I have to hear "Here's how I'll make it up to you". Helpful to understand in other relationships as well why you sometimes feel an apology was sincere or not, or to understand maybe why your apology may not have been viewed as sincere to another.


I believe that this book is a companion book to the The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate. After reading this book I have a greater understanding of how the people in my life say sorry. Not everyone expresses it the same and by recognizing it in other people you can have a better connection and more open communication. I highly recommend this book to everyone.

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