Los Cinco Lenguajes del Amor para Solteros (The Five Love Languages for Singles, Spanish edition)

ISBN: 0789912910
ISBN 13: 9780789912916
By: Gary Chapman

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It's a little bit religious preachy and a little phobic, but the overall lesson is very powerful. Especially since everyone has family members and coworkers they need to get along with better!


Thought I'd blow through this before I gave it back to my friend's therapist. While I think the identification of the love languages is pretty profound, beyond that, I feel like a lot of this stuff is not quite so revoluationary. However, a lot of people find it so, and that's what's even more surprising. It's great that it helps so many people! I don't know that it gave me monumental ideas, since it doesn't take a great deal of thought to implement communication to people in their love language once you know what a love language is. There is a quiz at the end to tell you your love language if you don't know. The idea of people not being able to identify their primary love language baffles me. It would be weird not to know yourself well enough to be able to identify it on your own. Still, just in case, I did a mental order of what I reckoned the order of my five would be. The quiz confirmed it. Words of affirmation and gifts hit rock bottom. 1) time - 10 2) touch - 83) service - 74) affirmation - 35) gifts - 2


This author has written at least 6 books on this topic. Everyone apparently responds more to one "love language" than the others. The five languages of love are Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. Once you know a person's preferred language you can use that language to better express love or friendship towards that person. This theory can be applied to significant others, parents, kids, other relatives, friends, co-workers,.... In the back of this particular book he has a list of 30 questions and you pick the sentence choice which best describes you. For example, for question 30 you pick the statement which is closer to your preferences: "I need to be touched every day" or "I need words of affirmation daily." Per this quiz my primary love language is Quality Time and that's definitely true, I REALLY appreciate family and friends spending time with me. We don't have to do much, could be just sitting around gabbing or swilling tea while reading, but it means a lot to me. My second language is apparently Words of Affirmation. As a means of finding someone's love language he suggests thinking about a person and how they tend to express love or light up in response to a certain action towards them. I've been trying to think about my parents and am drawing a blank but maybe I can reccomend his book "The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to YOur Mate" to them and see if they'll let me know.


Every single person should read this book! Read the other one if you're not. Just get one of them! It will change your relationships with friends, family, and romantic partners for the better for the rest of your life. I re-read this one every couple years as a refresher. I'm telling you...read this book!


Everyone should read this!The thesis of the book is simple yet staggeringly far-reaching in its implications: each of us has a primary "love language" through which we express and experience love most deeply.If our partners don't speak this language, both we and partners don't feel loved and cause problems in the relationships.Moreover, unlike regular spoken languages, there are only five love languages:1) Words of affirmation (praises, encouragement, appreciation)2) Gift-giving (self-explanatory)3) Acts of service (doing things for others)4) Quality time (spending time together and having the undivided attention of the other)5) Physical touch (again, self-explanatory)Of course, like languages, we CAN learn to "speak" any of these love languages, and being able to speak the primary love language of our partners and family members is crucial in building healthy, nurturing, and loving relationships with them.As I was reading it through, I experienced flashbacks to my past relationships and almost all issues I had in them dissolved away when I identified my own primary love language and my ex-girlfriend's primary love languages.This is simply one of the most powerful tools for understanding and dealing with what matters most to us.Can't recommend it highly enough.


This is a great book but it should be called something like, "The Five Love Languages in Every Relationship." Apparently the original book was written only in the context of sharing love with a spouse so the author wanted to write something to apply to concept to other areas of life so it would be more accessible for everybody else. It talks about dating, parents, friends, coworkers, people you don't get along with, etc. It's a great book with some good insight into interpersonal communication. The main messages of the book: show love to all the people around you (not just when you feel like it or it comes easily for you) and look for the ways that are most special to them, not you. Anybody could use some of this thinking to help them in their relationships, and there are some helpful clues in figuring out the best way to connect with someone in the book.


Plenty has been written about this book so I won't say much. I appreciated the clear and concise way that the five love languages are outlined, and I liked the quiz in the back to help you figure out which one is your own (or someone else's). I also liked the practical application to everyday life, not just in romance.I was disappointed that the author chose to lean so heavily on the teachings of Jesus and the Christian faith, because this book would be good for lots of people who aren't Christian, but they might be turned off by the constant religious references. This limits the possible impact of the book. Still, if you were going to put together a "living today in the Christian faith" class for 20-30 year olds, this would be a good addition to The Shack in that curriculum.

Brent Soderstrum

Being a single who has had his struggles with the female gender I found this book very enlightening. This book isn't geared solely towards dating it also deals with friendships, work relationships, parents and your kids. Basically there are five types of love languages that we all speak and we each have one that is predominate. If you figure out what the person's love language is you can "speak" it to them and fill their love tank. The five love languages are 1) words of affirmation, 2) gifts, 3) acts of service, 4) quality time and 5) physical touch.It gives you hints on how to figure out what the other person's love language is. It also contains a test to take to determine what your love language is.I also found it interesting that the author has found that there is a two year period in a new relationship in which speaking the love language of the other person isn't necessary. This is the "tingle" period. Once this two year period ends, and it will, you need to work at maintaining the love that was soooo present in the relationship before. Good read and can be done quickly. Love is what seperates us from animals so we should find ways to express it to those who are important to us.


Es un excelente libro. Nos reta a conocer e identificar nuestros lenguajes y asimismo, a reconocer los lenguajes de quienes nos rodean. Dar amor al prójimo ya no es tan difícil después de identificar cual es su lenguaje. Agradable lectura, recomendado.


When I was finished with this book, I felt as if everyone I know should read it or another version of it (not necessarily the "Singles" version.) This book not only will undoubtedly help me understand future relationships, but it had me stop and examine the love languages of every member of my family, close friend.. I even went through and examined the love languages of colleagues. A total "a ha" moment was when I looked at the love languages of my parents. Prior behavior which I, at times, felt were smothering or controlling, weren't that at all - they were truly my parents acting out in their own love languages. Similarly, I saw how my own personal need for words of affirmation, and ways that I felt discouraged in the past, were because of others not speaking in my love language. I thought back to failed relationships and saw how I may not have been speaking that person's love language - but ultimately, how they were not speaking mine. It helped me to realize that people may not always be intentionally hurting me with their words; they are simply just not speaking my love language or understanding how they make me feel.If nothing else, this was a fantastic book on the human psychological condition and deepening your ability to relate to other people and understand both them and ourselves. Add in the fact that it's a Christian book based on Godly principles, and I think that the Christian reader pulls even more out of it than the non-Christian. Either way, I truly feel that anyone (Christian or non-Christian) looking to have a deeper understanding of their interpersonal relationships should definitely take the time to read this book and take the concepts to heart. It can definitely be relationship changing.


I think that the five love languages part was really good. The rest of the book was a lot of repeating etc...Like what I used to do when I needed to extend my college paper. Also not to fond of all the Christianity references OVER and OVER.Overall helpful info, but could have done the same good if written in an article and not a book.

Evan G

This was a great book. IT helped me understand how others feel loved. It also helped me realize how I feel loved. My love language is quality time and I never would have realized this if I never read this book. Just knowing this has helped me understand myself better. This is a great read and I recommend that everyone should read the version that best pertains to them.


Story:Dr. Gary Chapman has broken down the concept of Love into five simple languages: Acts of Service, Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Physical Touch, and Receiving Gifts. Everyone falls into at least one of these categories and that’s how they receive Love. If you don’t speak the right language or are unable to recognize your partners language then you could be doomed from the start.In this book, and others from the series, Dr. Chapman breaks down the five languages of love. He uses examples from the past 30 years of how to listen and learn the signs of these five languages, to form a better relationship between you and your partner or anyone else in your life.Thoughts:I’ve had this book suggested to me twice now and kept putting off reading it. Recently, I was helping a friend through a tough time, remembered this book, and figured I needed to give it a read. It was worth the read.I went in thinking that the premise seemed kind of silly. “Only five ways people express love? Probably just a book with a broad scope of catch-all nonsense, wrapped in Christian quotes to sell books.”I came out the other end going, “This makes a lot of sense. I can kind of see why this relationship didn’t work or that one. She liked when I did X, but X wasn’t high on my list, so when I did Y and Z for her over and over, she would just shrug.”And as the book points out, it works in every type of relationship. Co-workers, roommates, friends, etc. All bonds are based around a mutual respect and some affection towards a person to want to spend time with them. If you speak their love language then they will be more acceptable to your thoughts and/or ideas.At the end of the book it gives you a quick test to help you find out which of the five languages speaks loudest too you.In first place I had a tie between “Quality Time” and “Physical Touch.” Then in descending order: “Word of Affirmation,” “Acts of Service,” and “Receiving Gifts”Words and Acts of Service were separated by a point from each other. Gifts was far far down the ladder.One issues I do have with the book is the idea that anyone can get along, you just have to “speak their language.” I’m pretty sure some people just aren’t compatible and this book may prolong an unhealthy relationship as one of the partners keeps attempting to “fix” the other. Sometimes it’s better to just walk away.Should you read it?Yes. While this book is aimed towards singles (single, divorced, widowed) and still applies even to married couples, there are different versions of this book dependent upon your status. “Secret to Love that Lasts” “Men’s Edition” “Children’s Edition””Teenager’s Edition” I have a feeling all follow the same guidelines and just give varying examples and stories in their respective book.So give it a read and then share what your “love language” is.


Full points for a compelling concept, but the many narrative real-life applications were a little like reading the script to a low budget office conduct video. Also, as this book is clearly Christian in perspective, some secular readers might be turned off to the otherwise objective truths.That said, I think anyone and everyone could benefit from at least skimming this book. Chapman's insights are brilliant, relevant, and completely applicable to everyday situations. Granted, I do not think them as 100% bulletproof as the book may present them, there are some people out there that might still misinterpret or obstinately ignore even the boldest or most sincere attempts to reconcile a relationship, but the shift in perspective it generates is certainly worth the read.


I didn't really learn anything in addition to the original "The Five Love Languages". I recommend just sticking with that book. The examples he gave were either people who were currently dating or past tense examples of relationships that have came to an end. This is helpful for identifying what your own or what other's love languages are or have been, but really does nothing to help the single person enter a new relationship. It really did not give a very positive outlook on dating, with dating being something you have to suffer through to hopefully eventually find the person you can live with after years of trial and error. It also paints a negative portrait of singles, that singles are just looking for what is out there to take (not givers) and that there is no way a single person can be truly happy since studies have shown that married individuals are happier and more economically secure. This book would also better if he could cut the church chat and just get to the point. His 1950's views on sex and sexuality got to be downright annoying after awhile.

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