Los Cinco Lenguajes del Amor para Solteros (The Five Love Languages for Singles, Spanish edition)

ISBN: 0789912910
ISBN 13: 9780789912916
By: Gary Chapman

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Paul Dinger

Normally, I find this kind of stuff trite beyond all telling of it. I am surprised I read this, and even more surprised that I found this interesting enough to read a lot of it's sources. Though Chapman uses such offensively trite expressions as 'love tank', his thinking is solid and prose is thought provoking. I found myself, arguing, agreeing, thinking. In other words, I was pulled into a dialogue with this book and higher praise I can't possibly give. It really made me look at a lot of my own relationships and understand them in a better way. I want to and know I can do better because of reading this, although I was very reluctant to give it a try.

Jessica

This book is an easy read and thought provoking. It only took me a couple days to finish it. I learned about how I interact with friends, family and potential partners. It has allowed me to see how my actions in the past affected relationship that I had and have. It also has shown me how changes I have made since my last relationship were for the positive and related to the five love languages - without even knowing it. I also realized why, in part, I react the way I do when I meet/begin to get to know people. I believe that this book has given me some insight to help me consciously be aware of how my actions affect the people around me, and hopefully to improve the relationships I have and will have. I recommend it to anyone!

Taka

Everyone should read this!The thesis of the book is simple yet staggeringly far-reaching in its implications: each of us has a primary "love language" through which we express and experience love most deeply.If our partners don't speak this language, both we and partners don't feel loved and cause problems in the relationships.Moreover, unlike regular spoken languages, there are only five love languages:1) Words of affirmation (praises, encouragement, appreciation)2) Gift-giving (self-explanatory)3) Acts of service (doing things for others)4) Quality time (spending time together and having the undivided attention of the other)5) Physical touch (again, self-explanatory)Of course, like languages, we CAN learn to "speak" any of these love languages, and being able to speak the primary love language of our partners and family members is crucial in building healthy, nurturing, and loving relationships with them.As I was reading it through, I experienced flashbacks to my past relationships and almost all issues I had in them dissolved away when I identified my own primary love language and my ex-girlfriend's primary love languages.This is simply one of the most powerful tools for understanding and dealing with what matters most to us.Can't recommend it highly enough.

Monika

It's great theory, indeed. I like it. Although, it didn't tell more than I've already known. In fact, I could say that you don't really have to know this five languages. Instead of it, you can just be more open to people and develop more emphaty and you will end up the same. Some psychological technics I've already known from my psychology classes and just from religion and life experience, though.It suprised me that there were so many examples of people - according to the book - who changed their lifes just because they finally learnt what love languages others are speaking of. Perhaps it's mora about personality and life experience to be open to others. Either way, I'm glad that this book helped so many people.I like also that author refers many times to the Bible and presents Christian love and lifestyle. I recommend this book. It's good.

Rnd

I put off reading this book for a little while, but once I picked it up I couldn't put it down. I learned so much about myself, and not only about romantic relationships, but relationships that I have with everyone on my life, from parents, friends, siblings, etc. It is an amazing book that I will read and reread and try to incorporate into my life. It breaks down the meaning of having and giving love in a Christian manner, and really tries to help you improve your life and the lives of the people around you by emulating Jesus' views and actions on love. I think EVERYONE should read this book.

JayJay

Full points for a compelling concept, but the many narrative real-life applications were a little like reading the script to a low budget office conduct video. Also, as this book is clearly Christian in perspective, some secular readers might be turned off to the otherwise objective truths.That said, I think anyone and everyone could benefit from at least skimming this book. Chapman's insights are brilliant, relevant, and completely applicable to everyday situations. Granted, I do not think them as 100% bulletproof as the book may present them, there are some people out there that might still misinterpret or obstinately ignore even the boldest or most sincere attempts to reconcile a relationship, but the shift in perspective it generates is certainly worth the read.

Evan G

This was a great book. IT helped me understand how others feel loved. It also helped me realize how I feel loved. My love language is quality time and I never would have realized this if I never read this book. Just knowing this has helped me understand myself better. This is a great read and I recommend that everyone should read the version that best pertains to them.

Kim

** spoiler alert ** The book gave me some interesting points of view that I never thought about before - the five love languages and that most of us have one main love language. The book is really insightful of what/ how we feel love from others and how we can make others fell loved by us. Surely the book is written for singles, however please do not think that is it only for people who is currently NOT in a dating relationship. In my opinion the book is mainly for single parents or someone who is in a dating relationship (there are also some helpful advices for couples as well as family/ co-worker relationship). To be honest, it think it doesnt help much on one-sided relationship.One reason I gave this book a 3/5 rating is because there is a fairly amount of statements related to Christianity, Bible, God etc I myself am not a Christian or follow any religion, thus there are fairly amounts of times I felt it was unrealistic, eg marriage (it's hard for me to explain this, but I do not agree with the author on a few point about this). The author also said that love is a choice, I totally disagree with it.Also the author mentioned in his "physical touch" chapter that "The love language of physical touch may also be spoken to members of the same sex. Such expressions have nothing to do with homosexuality". I dont know but I prefer he shouldn't state that statement, especially how he ONLY mention it in that chapter. He wrote about love between people (all the romantic relationship examples in his book are male-female, I totally understand) and the five love languages; and none of his statements about them suggest about our sexuality. BUT then he has to mention that statement in the "physical touch" chapter, it gave a hint of "discrimination" (IN MY OPINION). That statement was really out of nowhere, and .... 'sighed' (Sorry english is not my main language so I don't really know how to express my thought here).The book should have get higher rating (3.5 or 4) but that statement destroyed all my enjoyment of reading this book.

Holly

Every single person should read this book! Read the other one if you're not. Just get one of them! It will change your relationships with friends, family, and romantic partners for the better for the rest of your life. I re-read this one every couple years as a refresher. I'm telling you...read this book!

Anne

This author has written at least 6 books on this topic. Everyone apparently responds more to one "love language" than the others. The five languages of love are Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. Once you know a person's preferred language you can use that language to better express love or friendship towards that person. This theory can be applied to significant others, parents, kids, other relatives, friends, co-workers,.... In the back of this particular book he has a list of 30 questions and you pick the sentence choice which best describes you. For example, for question 30 you pick the statement which is closer to your preferences: "I need to be touched every day" or "I need words of affirmation daily." Per this quiz my primary love language is Quality Time and that's definitely true, I REALLY appreciate family and friends spending time with me. We don't have to do much, could be just sitting around gabbing or swilling tea while reading, but it means a lot to me. My second language is apparently Words of Affirmation. As a means of finding someone's love language he suggests thinking about a person and how they tend to express love or light up in response to a certain action towards them. I've been trying to think about my parents and am drawing a blank but maybe I can reccomend his book "The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to YOur Mate" to them and see if they'll let me know.

Emily

I didn't really learn anything in addition to the original "The Five Love Languages". I recommend just sticking with that book. The examples he gave were either people who were currently dating or past tense examples of relationships that have came to an end. This is helpful for identifying what your own or what other's love languages are or have been, but really does nothing to help the single person enter a new relationship. It really did not give a very positive outlook on dating, with dating being something you have to suffer through to hopefully eventually find the person you can live with after years of trial and error. It also paints a negative portrait of singles, that singles are just looking for what is out there to take (not givers) and that there is no way a single person can be truly happy since studies have shown that married individuals are happier and more economically secure. This book would also better if he could cut the church chat and just get to the point. His 1950's views on sex and sexuality got to be downright annoying after awhile.

Tracy

So, The Five Love Languages for singles is mainly about finding your primary love language so you can get along with your boyfriend, parents, family members and friends. There are five love languages. Which is:1)Words of Affirmation 2)gifts3)Acts of Service4)Quality Time5)Physical TouchI found out that my primary love language is Quality time. I love this book so much because it helped me figure out my love language so people can understand me more, I found out my ex's love language so him and I can work on our relationship and I found out my parent's love language so I can try and get along with them more since our relationship is very up and down. deff a good read for everyone (:

Michelle

It's a little bit religious preachy and a little phobic, but the overall lesson is very powerful. Especially since everyone has family members and coworkers they need to get along with better!

Jill

Thought I'd blow through this before I gave it back to my friend's therapist. While I think the identification of the love languages is pretty profound, beyond that, I feel like a lot of this stuff is not quite so revoluationary. However, a lot of people find it so, and that's what's even more surprising. It's great that it helps so many people! I don't know that it gave me monumental ideas, since it doesn't take a great deal of thought to implement communication to people in their love language once you know what a love language is. There is a quiz at the end to tell you your love language if you don't know. The idea of people not being able to identify their primary love language baffles me. It would be weird not to know yourself well enough to be able to identify it on your own. Still, just in case, I did a mental order of what I reckoned the order of my five would be. The quiz confirmed it. Words of affirmation and gifts hit rock bottom. 1) time - 10 2) touch - 83) service - 74) affirmation - 35) gifts - 2

Lisa Filipczak

This book was just okay but the concept will definitely stick with me so I'm grateful for that. When we think about partners, friends or family members and our relationships, we all come to the table with different needs and the ability to express love in our own way. It was interesting to read about the different forms of love and how people express love so differently. Being aware of how someone demonstrates love, especially if it's a different style than yours, is important. We may claim that the other person doesn't love us but they may just express it in a different style than us. This was a little long for a book and I felt it could have been effective as an article instead but I'm still glad to have read this.

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