The Compleat Gentleman: The Modern Man’s Guide to Chivalry

ISBN: 189062652X
ISBN 13: 9781890626525
By: Brad Miner

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Reader's Thoughts


Not in love with the study of idiomology and felt like that took up too much of the book. Plus, he was super wordy. Did learn a little about history but the examples were definitely not uplifting. Will not be sharing this book with my class.

Michael Lunsford

There were some pretty low ratings for this book in this venue. So, let me start out by saying that this is not a book of manners and polite pleasantries. If you're trying to figure out which fork to use with which course, you needn't waste your time looking for it here.Using over a thousand years of history and etymology, this book is also not some propaganda piece thrown together to discredit or redefine manliness. At its core, this book reintroduces the chivalrous man to the modern era.The author has a rich vocabulary, for which the "pocket" dictionary wasn't of much use. Still, it was a relatively quick read. It also had insights into other issues of our day and succeeded in educating this reader (just short of epiphany) on several topics left completely untouched by other books.

Major Doug

Listened to this book: good perspective for any Dad.

Michael Mayer

One of the worst books I have ever read (I admit I couldn't finish it; life is too short for such rubbish) Skip this book and read the first 4000 lines or so of The Romance of the Rose, Andreas Capellanus' The Art of Courtly Love, Castiglione's The Book of the Courtier, and Machiavelli's The Prince. When the author is not going on about his martial art experience and why war helps build character (the author takes a detour to explain to his politically conservative audience how he managed to sit out the Vietnam war but how he now regrets it) he actually does touch upon some of these authors' discussions of "Courtly" behavior. Save yourself the headache and read these work yourself. I highly recommend the Book of the Courtier--just as relevant in 16th century Italy as it is now but be careful not to take everything you read in the Courtier at face value!


Eh, wasn't at all what I was expecting, and I couldn't slog thorough it.


I very much enjoyed this book. Chivalry has had its' share of detractors over the years, but this book builds a solid argument for striving to become a "gentleman".

Legacy Dad

I like the premise of this book and was excited about the title, however this book reads like someones Graduate dissertation. Too many pretentious words and needless rambling about obscure writers and quotes. I struggled through it. I like references to classical literature but not every three sentences. There is a difference between best SELLING authors and best WRITING authors. You have to write in a language that the masses can easily read and enjoy. This one is not.However, being a compleat gentlemen also means being astute and worldly, so there is an argument for both sides.

Aaron Smith

Chivelry may have lost its appeal in the 21st century, but Mr. Miner brings to light a few areas men should focus on in living their lives: the knight, the warrior, the monk, and the lover. I thoroughly enjoyed his closing remarks on what it will take to re-establish the man's role in society.


Mostly good. Goes over the history of chivalry and discusses its use in the modern world.The author only occasionally interjects his opinion without providing support.

James Harmeling

This is unique book. Miner is a good writer who traces the history of chivalry and draws upon original and morphed meanings of being a gentleman. He divides the idea into three categories: warrior, monk, lover. Each of these categories are given adequate attention and he concludes with attempts to interpret being a gentleman in the 21st century. At times, Miner gets sidetracked due to his great breadth of literature, especially medieval literature. I found myself at times moving from the book to my Amazon wish list to add certain works to my Kindle account. Nonetheless, I was refreshed by Miner's high ideals and his capable exploration of the topic.


More a review of the literature than a manual of manners. A balanced critique/defense of the worldly virtues. My sprezzatura prevents me from saying more.

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