The Modern Gentleman: A Guide to Essential Manners, Savvy and Vice

ISBN: 1580084303
ISBN 13: 9781580084307
By: Phineas Mollod Jason Tesauro

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THE MODERN GENTLEMAN is a visually stimulating, rib-tickling, thought-provoking sourcebook of manners and mischief for the 21st-century male. The book offers a panoramic snapshot of the gentleman: witty and poignant, traditional but spontaneous, flirtatious yet courting. Discussions range from the classic (Motoring, Oenophilia) and serious (Secrets & Lies, The Good Husband), to the racy (Kink & Fetish, To the Power of 3) and silly (Bumper Stickers, Fonzarelli Moves & Legerdemain ). And since it is inevitable that a gentleman will dabble in the friskier areas of excess, trouble, and chance, the book's naughty nucleus, “The Potent Gentleman,” explores leisure and dalliance, from alcohol and snuff to recreational botanicals and sex.All men aspire to be perpetually dapper, fluent in three languages, and hit 300-yard drives off the blue tees, not to mention quote poetry by the stanza and win a back-alley scrap. However, there is a dashing plateau more desirable than Hollywood perfection, a level of gallantry that makes one stand out, even in the elevator. So knot up your ascot, pour a glass of sherry, and crack open the MODERN GENTLEMAN: your Man Cycle is peaking.

Reader's Thoughts


Well apparently there are other guys out there who say swell, like sweaters and have a cocktail because not only is it refreshing in that deaden your senses way but it looks cool.


The voice of the author drove me away, I'm sorry to say. It reads like an ancient ettiqite book and is just as dragging to get through. Tried to read it three times and kept putting it away to try again later.

Aspry Jones

"Tuxedoed guests deserve cocktails in stems and highballs. A martini in a plastic cup is not a drink. Steer a raucus bunch away from the crystal and don't place a sippy cup in an enchanting lady's manicured hand."That's one of two things wrong with this book. The first, as shown above, is that too often do the authors write to see their own words. Contrary to what they believe, it's not good writing when you use three full sentences just to say "use the good stuff at a fancy event." For that matter, use the good stuff for your guests no matter what. That's what a real gentleman would do.Moving away from too-cute asides and lexiphanic verbosity, the second thing wrong with this book is that it has very little to do with being a gentleman, modern or otherwise. Skinny dipping, intimate rendevous, crashing parties, public drinking - and that's all BEFORE the chapter on vice, which discusses sex and substance abuse.I don't know what these guys call the definition of a modern gentleman, but the entire book is filled with crass behavior diguised as what most would call just "being a guy." But here's the deal: being a guy is awesome. I AM one and I think it's great! This book deals with that very well, but adds to the greatness of guyness by giving endless tips on how to be a BETTER guy. These tips include jukebox mastery, throwing parties, being well-versed in literature and pretty much being as cool as one man could possibly be, while not actually being gentlemanly.There may be a few pointers on gentlemanly behavior inside these boring and wordy pages, but chivalry and charm are not what this book is about. This book is about looking cool, getting over on the rules of society, telling good lies, using Cliff Notes to cram "knowledge," hooking up with coworkers and using incriminating photos of friends as blackmail. That's what they should've said this book was about in the first place because those things sound pretty darned interesting if that's what you're after.Oh, and they use far too many words to do all this while trying to sound witty and smart. They messed that up too.


Really well written and kind of hilarious. That is all.

Chris Royster

If chivalry and sophistication are a rarity amongst the modern cat,this book is the remedy!I read this book about 4 years ago.I gave my copy to a younger guy that would always ask me for advice on style and women and how to be original.Then I had to buy another copy asap!My bible!

Jason Yang

This is the book of advice your dad gave you - if your dad was James Bond. Highly entertaining, Phineas and Tesauro offer portraits of gentlemanly charm. Chivalry is indeed not dead and the advice given here is thematically classic. As with all advice, it is important to use discretion and not apply these tips blindly. Still, this guide here will indeed make for a savvy lifestyle and some colorful stories.

Evan Mora

Wickedly funny and surprisingly helpful.

Legacy Dad

This is a great little tongue in cheek guide for the modern man or young man to learn a few basic life principles and a whole lot of culture. Superbly written with great use of the English language. I'd recommend this to all Bachelors, guys in college and 20 something’s.

Marinus Uys

trully brilliant funny read, tackling what most parentals omitted. I real hoot to re - visit.


I didn't agree with everything they advocate, but there is some good advice for dealing with situations the modern gentleman finds himself in.


Going through this slowly. Some basic tips about how to be a gentleman. Nothing too terribly surprising.


Although it's a reference, it reads like anyother book. It's pretty funny. I used it like I do GQ: I may not follow it all, but you gotta know the rules before you break them. These days, a semi-gentleman is the best your gonna get.


written wittily and in stifled prose as manners' guides should be, but with chapters on flasking. good stuff.


This may be a modern world but real men roll old school.


Phineas Mollod and Jason Tesauro masterly craft a pocket guidebook for those needing swift kick in the ascot. 329 pages concerning proper gentlemanly protocol on a variety of topics: entertaining, meeting the parents and flaskmanship; just to name a few. While not a definitive code of conduct, Mollod and Tesauro cover enough bases to make any Bush League Hooligan into a presentable Major League Player. While extremely enjoyable, The Modern Gentleman is more than just a light read. Due to quick wit and vocabulary, the book is perfect for any 50 minute puddle jump or commuter train ride. While some of the guidelines are already outdated, such as proper answering machine ediquette, most of the proposed conventions are ideals worth striving towards.In the end, the authors close with : "Best of luck to you noble Cavalier of Life. Go forward with strength, grace, mindfulness and the occasional glass of Chartreuse. The world will follow behind you."Cheers

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