The Modern Gentleman: A Guide to Essential Manners, Savvy and Vice

ISBN: 1580084303
ISBN 13: 9781580084307
By: Phineas Mollod Jason Tesauro

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THE MODERN GENTLEMAN is a visually stimulating, rib-tickling, thought-provoking sourcebook of manners and mischief for the 21st-century male. The book offers a panoramic snapshot of the gentleman: witty and poignant, traditional but spontaneous, flirtatious yet courting. Discussions range from the classic (Motoring, Oenophilia) and serious (Secrets & Lies, The Good Husband), to the racy (Kink & Fetish, To the Power of 3) and silly (Bumper Stickers, Fonzarelli Moves & Legerdemain ). And since it is inevitable that a gentleman will dabble in the friskier areas of excess, trouble, and chance, the book's naughty nucleus, “The Potent Gentleman,” explores leisure and dalliance, from alcohol and snuff to recreational botanicals and sex.All men aspire to be perpetually dapper, fluent in three languages, and hit 300-yard drives off the blue tees, not to mention quote poetry by the stanza and win a back-alley scrap. However, there is a dashing plateau more desirable than Hollywood perfection, a level of gallantry that makes one stand out, even in the elevator. So knot up your ascot, pour a glass of sherry, and crack open the MODERN GENTLEMAN: your Man Cycle is peaking.

Reader's Thoughts


written wittily and in stifled prose as manners' guides should be, but with chapters on flasking. good stuff.


So far I think the author is gay, mention of how to where your ascot, but a good mix of humor and helpful hints on conduct and the like.


I didn't agree with everything they advocate, but there is some good advice for dealing with situations the modern gentleman finds himself in.


Although it's a reference, it reads like anyother book. It's pretty funny. I used it like I do GQ: I may not follow it all, but you gotta know the rules before you break them. These days, a semi-gentleman is the best your gonna get.


Thank you baby-boomers, for completely fucking up any progress you made towards social liberation in the 60s. Now you're all divorced and addicted to benzodiazepenes, your kids hate you and you need a Prius plus a loft on 20th and Florida to ease the cognitive dissonance generated by the fact you sold out and will die very, very soon. Scary innit?Nah, but I got love. All I'm saying is us post-generation X'ers have to start all over again to define a rebellious generation. We grew up on ritalin, super-mario brothers and the internet. Fertile ground for over-educated, underpaid thrill addicts with the attention span of a drosophila. Furthermore, having shit like Max Hardcore and tubgirl as our primary introduction to sexuality has made for some questionable moral etiquette when it comes to summoning the stork.In spite of all this, we get by. The Modern Gentleman is a manifesto which sets to re-define virility and charm for lads like us. This isn't the regular "etiquette" book which orders banal gallantries like keeping elbows off the table, buy her drinks and bring her back before midnight; nor is it some creepy Speed Seduction coursebook on nailing MILFs via hypnosis...Instead, it elegantly chronicles the recipe for the modern man: One part charmer, two parts lush, 100% Dandy. For anyone looking to add a little variety to their etiquette, or simply in need of some original drink recipes...You really can't go wrong either way.

Legacy Dad

This is a great little tongue in cheek guide for the modern man or young man to learn a few basic life principles and a whole lot of culture. Superbly written with great use of the English language. I'd recommend this to all Bachelors, guys in college and 20 something’s.


Phineas Mollod and Jason Tesauro masterly craft a pocket guidebook for those needing swift kick in the ascot. 329 pages concerning proper gentlemanly protocol on a variety of topics: entertaining, meeting the parents and flaskmanship; just to name a few. While not a definitive code of conduct, Mollod and Tesauro cover enough bases to make any Bush League Hooligan into a presentable Major League Player. While extremely enjoyable, The Modern Gentleman is more than just a light read. Due to quick wit and vocabulary, the book is perfect for any 50 minute puddle jump or commuter train ride. While some of the guidelines are already outdated, such as proper answering machine ediquette, most of the proposed conventions are ideals worth striving towards.In the end, the authors close with : "Best of luck to you noble Cavalier of Life. Go forward with strength, grace, mindfulness and the occasional glass of Chartreuse. The world will follow behind you."Cheers

Aspry Jones

"Tuxedoed guests deserve cocktails in stems and highballs. A martini in a plastic cup is not a drink. Steer a raucus bunch away from the crystal and don't place a sippy cup in an enchanting lady's manicured hand."That's one of two things wrong with this book. The first, as shown above, is that too often do the authors write to see their own words. Contrary to what they believe, it's not good writing when you use three full sentences just to say "use the good stuff at a fancy event." For that matter, use the good stuff for your guests no matter what. That's what a real gentleman would do.Moving away from too-cute asides and lexiphanic verbosity, the second thing wrong with this book is that it has very little to do with being a gentleman, modern or otherwise. Skinny dipping, intimate rendevous, crashing parties, public drinking - and that's all BEFORE the chapter on vice, which discusses sex and substance abuse.I don't know what these guys call the definition of a modern gentleman, but the entire book is filled with crass behavior diguised as what most would call just "being a guy." But here's the deal: being a guy is awesome. I AM one and I think it's great! This book deals with that very well, but adds to the greatness of guyness by giving endless tips on how to be a BETTER guy. These tips include jukebox mastery, throwing parties, being well-versed in literature and pretty much being as cool as one man could possibly be, while not actually being gentlemanly.There may be a few pointers on gentlemanly behavior inside these boring and wordy pages, but chivalry and charm are not what this book is about. This book is about looking cool, getting over on the rules of society, telling good lies, using Cliff Notes to cram "knowledge," hooking up with coworkers and using incriminating photos of friends as blackmail. That's what they should've said this book was about in the first place because those things sound pretty darned interesting if that's what you're after.Oh, and they use far too many words to do all this while trying to sound witty and smart. They messed that up too.


i'd like to see what they tell all you guys...


Cute book - all you need to know about how to be a proper gentleman. It's sort of like one of those "Survivors Handbooks", but with a bit more wit and a lot more sophistication. I'm a girl and I still liked reading through it! If anything, it gave me a good idea of what I should come to expect out of a man. ;)

Gothicbunny Groves

Loved all the witty statements in the book which made me laugh quite a few times. The chapters titled 'Gentlemanly Knowledge' and 'Venerable Vices: Alcohol, Tobacco, & Fireworks' interested me the most.


Need lessons on how to be a classy gent? This is the book for you. It offers tips on how to be classy on numerous activities such as skinny dipping, tipping, and even crashing a party.

Duke DeLaet

Hilarious! It's like a couple of English scholars had nothing better to do than to come up with the most complicated puns they could think of and jam them all into a book. Super entertaining, and I learned quite a bit about cocktails.


An essential reference to being a gentleman. We all need some help here. Covers all topics imaginable, literally 100's of useful tidbits concerning modern etiquette. Example concerning flaskmanship: When is it appropriate to carry a flask? Guideline: Whenever you're wearing a sport jacket, otherwise you are under dressed.


Really well written and kind of hilarious. That is all.

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